A Thanksgiving Day filled with Love, Lust & Laughter, Oh My!
I have to admit… I have never considered Thanksgiving a romantic holiday. It’s always about family, friends, cooking. cleaning, drinking, a family fight or two (back in my childhood anyway) and the tryptophan coma by 6 pm.
This year was different. Our family is grown and most have a family of their own now. So the way the stars all lined up and the schedules didn’t, we ended up being home just the two of us for Thanksgiving this year.
I have to admit at first I was feeling a little sorry for myself. I had an intimate pity-party for one – I sent out invites, but no one accepted. Yet, as the day grew closer and I could feel my husband’s excited anticipation of having a whole day to ourselves, no work to call us, knowing everyone was safe and happy doing their own thanksgiving thing, I found myself getting caught up in a case of the “exciteds” too!
Something else has changed in our continually evolving relationship dynamic. We have started cooking together! (Thank you to our Son and his wife and the discovery of Blue Apron). So we got excited about cooking our own Thanksgiving dinner together – so excited we even went grocery shopping together! Now for many of you this may not seem like a big deal: but for me, it’s huge! There are very few things about my marriage that have been traditional – grocery shopping and cooking are two of those things. So, after 22 years of marriage and 30 years together I’m over the moon excited about having someone to share these experiences with (at least some of the time).
We were laughing our asses off as we shopped because the smallest turkey we could find, for the two of us, weighed 20 pounds! We bought it anyway. Giggling through Costco (yes I know they only sell BIG things there) like honeymooners shopping for the first time, we gathered all that we needed for our feast for two.
Fast forward to Thanksgiving day. I have to go through this day bit by bit because the pace and experience was so vastly different from all years past. Some of you will be envious – I’m sure next year I will be envious of myself.
We slept in together, which is a rare event and oh so much fun! Once we dragged ourselves from the bed, Mark made coffee and we headed out to the hot tub. An hour later with most of the world’s problems solved, we headed in to dress the big bird. Mark has never prepared this meal before and he was very curious and interested in learning the whole process. We worked together in the kitchen like a well-timed dance. We sipped mimosa’s, laughed, and behaved in naughty ways (ok, I’ll share… I was dressed in a way that held his attention as I maneuvered the big bird into the “lower” oven and all other activities that required hip flexion). It was actually really FUN!
While the food was cooking, we lounged on the couch, always touching in some way. We napped together, watched a movie, chatted with friends and all the while not feeling one ounce of rush or stress about the day. (Revealing to me how much stress we put upon ourselves during the Holidays). We eventually showered together in preparation for our dining experience (gotta save water you know) and I dressed up in a way that I would only dress on very adult vacations – which was visibly and verbally appreciated by my King 😉
We lit a single candle, dimmed the lights and sat in our beautiful dining room enjoying our delicious meal we’d prepared with love, lust, and laughter. Rather than answer our traditional question, “what I’m grateful for”, I asked Mark, “What lessons have you experienced this year that have resulted in the outcome of gratitude”? Being that we are both Sapiosexuals, this type of question really gets our juices flowing and hearts pounding.
One of the things our marriage has revealed to us is the true meaning of Intimacy. It is inviting and being invited into the deepest, and sometimes darkest, parts of a person’s consciousness to reveal their truths. This includes the often scary exposure of our fears, fantasies, mistakes, triumphs, regrets, and most importantly, our vulnerabilities. When we trust enough to reveal these private and sacred parts of ourselves we are lifted to new levels of love. Romance? Yes. Intimacy? Yes. Wild Sexual Expressions? Oh My YES! To experience this level of passionate, romantic and intimate love is beyond the beyond.
And so, today my heart is overflowing with gratitude for this Thanksgiving 2015: for all that had to be aligned, in the exquisite perfection of what is, to offer Mark and I this one experience that we will never forget and always hold dear.
PS: We did get to enjoy a wonderful couple of hours and some delicious desserts with our eldest daughter, her father and his family (yes, my first husband) and my daughter’s family. So it was not a complete loss of family interaction – so really we did get to enjoy it all!!
Wishing you all the experience of the deepest and most profound love imaginable,
Nancy and Mark have known each other since 1982 when Mark was starting his medical practice and Nancy was a nursing student. They became great friends over the course of the next 4 years. In 1986 they opened the only freestanding outpatient Diabetes Education & Care Center of Northern California. Over time, they fell madly in love and against all odds, were married in 1993 with their three children present on a Cruise Ship in the Caribbean. They often get mistaken for honeymooners when traveling to their favorite type of vacations: sexy, romantic destinations. It is possible to have this type of love – they are living proof it exists.
Intimately Yours, Dr. Nancy
Dr. Nancy Sutton Pierce, RN, DHS, International Speaker, Intimacy & Health Expert, the founding director of Conscious Living Yoga, Conscious Living Sexuality & Exotic Lifestyle Events. You can also find her every Saturday morning, 11a-12noon PT, Hosting her Conscious Living Radio Talk Show here at KCNR1460.com or download the podcast from iTunes.
Nancy earned her Doctorate Degree in Human Sexuality from the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality in San Francisco. You can experience a sampling of her Conscious Living Sexuality course on the Kendra On Top Show (Season 4, Episode 12). You can also find Nancy’s contributions in Cosmopolitan Magazine; on Sexpert.com, Sexycises.com DrNancySuttonPierce and ConsciousLivingYoga.com.
Her favorite topics and specialty areas are Intimacy Communication and Designer Lives/Relationships through her Conscious Living concepts. Her extensive and eclectic background as a registered nurse, health educator, sex & relationship author, radio talk show host, and yoga therapist serve as a foundational fuel for her passion and expertise as an International speaker and sensuality educator.
In between her global travels sharing her passion for passion, Dr. Nancy can be found enjoying life in Northern California with the love of her life for over 30 years, Dr. Mark Pierce. Together they have raised three children into adulthood and now bask in what she refers to as “the dessert of parenting”, their three incredible granddaughters.
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